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Posted on November 16, 2011 by Coach Garnet

Coach Garnet Mierau and Founder of Helping Children Through Divorce Welcomes You!

Please feel free to post comments and share your experience with divorce and children.

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Why Can’t a Woman Be More Like a Man?

Posted on April 23, 2012 by Coach Garnet

The song is from the musical, My Fair Lady and it’s titled, “A Hymn to Him.”

It was sung by Rex Harrison. Who married six times. The lyrics were written by Alan Jay Lerner. Who married eight times. The two of them had been complaining about the difficulties of their various marriages and divorces, and how much easier life would be if women were more like men. When you spend all your energy trying to change others without looking in the mirror, what do you think the consequences will be?

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Offsetting Parental Alienation: Teens & Tactics

Posted on April 15, 2012 by Coach Garnet

Coach Garnet’s Comments:

Another good article on parental alienation that I thought I would share with this community. Yes it is a tough road. I can only suggest that you never, never, never give up! Your children love you. Give them your love and make sure you are communicating clearly with everyone. Keep planting seeds!

Offsetting Parental Alienation: Teens & Tactics By Monika Logan, LBSW

Dealing with Parental Alienation is tough. As noted by author of Divorce Poison, Dr. Richard Warshak, alienated parents have to develop a thick skin. There is  not  an easy answer. What works for one situation, will not work for another. Yet, keep in mind that  other disorders  also lack  clear-cut answers. A few contributing  factors are:   personality, temperament and affinity. Still, there are shared commonalities; age counts.  So does time. Time is  vital . Continue reading →

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Understanding Challenges for Children of Separation & Divorce: Current Research on Risk and Resilience, and the Alienated Child

Posted on April 3, 2012 by Coach Garnet

An event coming up that I wanted to share with this community….

Understanding Challenges for Children of Separation & Divorce: Current Research on Risk and Resilience, and the Alienated Child

The effects of divorce of children impacts all of our work from mental health to the legal field. It is essential that we all our aware of the current research of the effects of divorce on children to guide us with evidence based treatment for our clients and our students.

Come and join the Medical College of WI, the Collaborative Family Law Council of WI and the Family Law Section of the State Bar of WI as we partner to bring one of the leaders in research on children and divorce, Joan Kelly, PhD, May 11th to Milwaukee for a workshop.

http://www.collabdivorce.com/JoanKellySeminar.html

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Matt Foley Motivational Speaker

Posted on April 1, 2012 by Coach Garnet

Garnet’s Comments:

I live in a van down by the river…Happy April Fool’s divorcee’s…just plain, great raw divorce humor for everyone! Not possible to keep a straight face for this one!

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Mark Baer’s Keynote Speech Given at The Divorce Expo in Detroit, Michigan on March 23, 2012

Posted on March 25, 2012 by Coach Garnet

Garnet’s Comments:

I’m back again to share another gift from my friend Mark Baer. For those who missed my interview with Mark in January, we talked about his role and experience in the divorce profession. We also touche on the upcoming Divorce Expo and I’m excited to be able to share his keynote speech with all of you now. Please leave some of your thoughts of what Mark spoke about below.

Mark Baer’s Keynote Speech Given at The Divorce Expo in Detroit, Michigan on March 23, 2012  Posted By Pasadena Family Law Attorney on Mar 24, 2012 8:20am PDT

impacts of divorce on children, divorce with children, divorce and childrenLike it or not, if there are children of the relationship (regardless of their age), the family still exists after the relationship ends. The manner in which you end a relationship determines whether your family will be functional or dysfunctional from that day forward.

Abraham Lincoln’s Notes for a Law Lecture dated July 1, 1850, provide in pertinent part as follows: “Discourage litigation. Persuade your neighbors to compromise Continue reading →

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5 Tips for Divorce and Parenting

Posted on March 18, 2012 by Coach Garnet

Garnet’s Comments:

The phrase “many hands make a light load comes to mind when I found this article by Arizona Divorce & Custody Coach. As a coach, I often refer to life as a game worth playing and that it requires team work to excel. The same team metaphor can be applied to divorce and parenting as it will take a community to raise your child. If you are trying to raise your child all on your own, then that is crazy. Not only are you going to drive yourself insane, but you’ll likely run out of resources and at the end of the day, your child(ren) will miss out on the richness of diversity from learning from others. Share the joy’s of parenting and enjoy the results of happy, healthy children.

Here is the original article from Arizona’s Family Law Resource Center powered by the experienced attorneys of Scott David Stewart Law in Phoenix, Arizona:

 


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Divorce and Children: What’s Your Response Going To Be?

Posted on March 6, 2012 by Coach Garnet

Garnet’s Comments:

I have had many mentors and trainers explain to me that the “event” is not as important as “one’s response to an event”. Here with divorce and children it is the same principle. As divorced parents, it is not the fact that we are now divorced, rather how we choose to move forward as a parent. Helping children through divorce is our responsibility and as the article below points out “What we know about children is that it’s not so much the circumstances of the divorce that are detrimental, it’s what the child makes of those circumstances”

Have you taken a workshop before that has helped you and your children through divorce? If so, I would love to hear what your experience has been. Please comment and share below. Continue reading →

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Divorce and Children…How Well Will Your Family Adjust?

Posted on February 24, 2012 by Coach Garnet

Garnet’s Comments:

Shout out to Divorce Coach Christina McGhee for bringing this article to my attention.

Divorce and children is the focus of this blog and as a divorced parent with what I consider to be a healthy perspective on raising children, I find comfort in this studies findings…well adjusted divorced parents equals well adjusted children – amen! Continue reading →

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Don’t Get A Divorce, Get A Donut!

Posted on February 10, 2012 by Coach Garnet

Going through a divorce with children you need to find new coping strategies. I love turning to humour so it’s time to lighten things up a bit…well that would all depend on how many donuts you get :)

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I’m So Happy I Can’t Stop Crying

Posted on January 30, 2012 by Coach Garnet

Garnet’s Comments:

Sting is such a hero! Lots of video’s to pick from on YouTube for this song but loved the energy that Ross Viner brought to the stage. If you want something in life…you gotta ASK for it and be willing to receive it - way to go Ross!

The lyrics speak for themselves and I find myself shedding a tear of happiness just flowing with the song out of the darkness in basking in the light of my life.

What’s your favorite divorce song? please comment and share…I’ll put together a nifty little play list! Continue reading →

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