I’ve been following Adele Theron for nearly a year now and once again she has delivered a very practical, simple yet powerful coaching tip. This time it’s all about helping children through divorce and I can certainly personally relate to all of her points. Taking care of yourself in divorce is absolutely a must, especially if you wish to be there FULLY for your children. Please comment and share what your experience has been with your children. Do you have a tip that you think others should hear about?
I always like to share a resource when I find one, especially if it is geared towards children of divorce and helping children through divorce. The Family Life website is geared towards couples willing, or at least wanting, to save their marriage. I do not advocate staying together for the children BUT I do strongly encourage couples to being open to the idea of “working it out” before entering the divorce process.
How have you considered your child(ren) in your divorce?
I really appreciate people that “say it like it is”…and in this case Judge Judy demonstrates a very strong conviction for the rights of children. I only wish more folks in the family law and legal world had the courage to do the same.
What do you think? Are children better off when with both parents equally? Please comment and share your opinion here.
This is a bit of a longer “teaser” video. That said, it does serve as a good “intro” to what to prepare for and think about when entering into divorce with children. I would like to have seen them deliver a bit more value with regards to real things parents can do to help their children. I do like the various questions that are posed to the class to get their mind thinking of what a child’s perspective on the divorce process is going to be.
Are you a child of divorce? What is your experience? What do parents need to be aware of? Please comment and share here.
The song is from the musical, My Fair Lady and it’s titled, “A Hymn to Him.”
It was sung by Rex Harrison. Who married six times. The lyrics were written by Alan Jay Lerner. Who married eight times. The two of them had been complaining about the difficulties of their various marriages and divorces, and how much easier life would be if women were more like men. When you spend all your energy trying to change others without looking in the mirror, what do you think the consequences will be?
Another good article on parental alienation that I thought I would share with this community. Yes it is a tough road. I can only suggest that you never, never, never give up! Your children love you. Give them your love and make sure you are communicating clearly with everyone. Keep planting seeds!
Offsetting Parental Alienation: Teens & Tactics By Monika Logan, LBSW
Dealing with Parental Alienation is tough. As noted by author of Divorce Poison, Dr. Richard Warshak, alienated parents have to develop a thick skin. There is not an easy answer. What works for one situation, will not work for another. Yet, keep in mind that other disorders also lack clear-cut answers. A few contributing factors are: personality, temperament and affinity. Still, there are shared commonalities; age counts. So does time. Time is vital . Continue reading →
An event coming up that I wanted to share with this community….
Understanding Challenges for Children of Separation & Divorce: Current Research on Risk and Resilience, and the Alienated Child
The effects of divorce of children impacts all of our work from mental health to the legal field. It is essential that we all our aware of the current research of the effects of divorce on children to guide us with evidence based treatment for our clients and our students.
Come and join the Medical College of WI, the Collaborative Family Law Council of WI and the Family Law Section of the State Bar of WI as we partner to bring one of the leaders in research on children and divorce, Joan Kelly, PhD, May 11th to Milwaukee for a workshop.
I’m back again to share another gift from my friend Mark Baer. For those who missed my interview with Mark in January, we talked about his role and experience in the divorce profession. We also touche on the upcoming Divorce Expo and I’m excited to be able to share his keynote speech with all of you now. Please leave some of your thoughts of what Mark spoke about below.
Mark Baer’s Keynote Speech Given at The Divorce Expo in Detroit, Michigan on March 23, 2012 Posted By Pasadena Family Law Attorney on Mar 24, 2012 8:20am PDT
Like it or not, if there are children of the relationship (regardless of their age), the family still exists after the relationship ends. The manner in which you end a relationship determines whether your family will be functional or dysfunctional from that day forward.
The phrase “many hands make a light load comes to mind when I found this article by Arizona Divorce & Custody Coach. As a coach, I often refer to life as a game worth playing and that it requires team work to excel. The same team metaphor can be applied to divorce and parenting as it will take a community to raise your child. If you are trying to raise your child all on your own, then that is crazy. Not only are you going to drive yourself insane, but you’ll likely run out of resources and at the end of the day, your child(ren) will miss out on the richness of diversity from learning from others. Share the joy’s of parenting and enjoy the results of happy, healthy children.